Out of the comfort zone

It’s easy to get lost in the sea of self-doubt when we forget to take care of our own needs .While it is important to strengthen your self-love muscles, it is just as important to get the support you need from others. Whether this is from friends, family, or a professional therapist, getting reassurance or help from others can make a big difference.Sometimes just the reassurance that you are not the only one who gets stuck or has moments of self doubt can be help you shift a “why me” attitude.What helps you overcome doubt in your abilities?

This dark shadow of insecurity can lead to hesitation and indecision. If left unchecked, it can cause us to abandon our course or radically compromise our expectations.You cannot overcome something until you first recognize and acknowledge its existence. If we give into the temptation to ignore or deny self-doubt, it will impose limits on our ability to act. Self-doubt can be a stealthy problem. If you suspect that it exists, you need to pull it into the light so it can be dealt with. The better you become at identifying hidden doubts, the easier it will be to overcome them. Once we develop a history meeting doubt head on and conquering it, we become much less susceptible to its influence.We are all our own worst enemy for sure. Having others doubt in your abilities is nothing in magnitude compared to our own self doubt. We have to be our own best fan!

If you are feeling overwhelmed by what you perceive as not going so well, take some time away from that project and focus on something totally different. Sometimes shifting our focus away from what we are stuck on helps us take a new perspective when we come back to it.Doodle, scribble, paint with your hands. Put on House or Rap and move around.Self doubt only grows if you feed it. So don’t feed it. A small amount of doubt is healthy, it keeps our egos in check and saves us from turning into narcissistic maniacs, but do not feed the doubt. Keep it the size of a kitten, not a cougar. Don’t feed your doubt. Tell yourself nice things about yourself and your writing. Find positive things to say and refrain from thinking or saying negative things about your writing. Be kind to yourself.

When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” ~ Honore de Balzac

A while back I began to feel out of sorts with my writing. It happened after coming down from the high of creating almost non stop with my inner muse. I noticed that I began to feel down, like the feeling one gets after being at the amusement park when the excitement is over.Creating and finishing my projects had been a wild ride. It was exciting and intense at times. But once done, an insidious feeling began to over take me. We have all created our present situation by the choices we made in the past. If we chose to do nothing, then our situation reflects that. Recognizing that we live in a world of our own creation means that we are responsible. If we don’t like our life the way it is, then we are the ones responsible for making changes so here I  am rising from the ashes of self doubt and insecurities here I am rising above all to pen down another blog for all those 4k people who have shown there love in the past by giving a glance to “Catches and Drops”. There was a time I thought my insecurities could eat me up alive but the time changes and very rarely it does change for good when u are raring to go out of your comfort zone and end up doing something out of the box J

-VS21